A little give, A little take!!

The key mechanism of any relationship lies in ‘a little give, a little take’.

Parent-child bond, bonds through marriage or a professional tie, all are signified while accomplishing the potential only by two-way traffic, ‘A little give, A little take’. 

A time bomb named as ‘relationship’ comprising cogs, namely, ‘providing and receiving’ operate in absolute sync consuming essential components like love, loyalty, trust, respect, communication, etc as the lubricant to avoid friction. If at all, any imbalance in the two cogs occurs, the mishap generally is followed by the glitch in the time bomb emanating catastrophes.

21st-century bondings have no common grounds with the ties and bonds shared back in the olden days. Families, friends and acquaintances stuck together for ages, then. 

Presently, any family connection or social affiliation easily associated to a time bomb, reason being, lack in the balance of giving and taking. Either, it is excess giving & no taking or, excess taking & no giving, in any case, bringing the connection ties’ survival rate to nearly zero. 

The shift in priorities has led to poignant consequences, lately. Willingness to compromise bearing in mind the well-being of the bond or the greater good coming with it has been engulfed in the love of mere commodity and rank.

An integral part of a bond is to compromise. 

However, to compromise is traditionally mistaken for acquiescing consumption of ourselves. Or, when the committed party is overly consumed ensued by his dedication, loyalty, love and priority.

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A little give, a little take

To compromise:

To gain benefits, giving up on a few is enforced. It is nearly impossible to have all that is desired by one. Which raises the question of, what to compromise on and for what to strive? 

Individual choices, mindsets, desires, tradition, qualification, upbringing and circumstances execute the decision of what to compromise.

Overlooking education for a blissful happily ever after is preferable for some, while sweeping the idea of marriage under the carpet for a successful career might be more convenient for some. Quitting a job for taking care of the households may be the idea of compromising for many, while compelled signup as a breadwinner of the house become the compromise for some. 

The complication has never been ‘the compromise’, but, what is being compromised and how much is being compromised. 

The exploitation of a compromising person excels in assorted setbacks. 

The mishap may be distinct, right from mental breakdowns to breakups, from disloyalty to deception, from animosity to resentment, and many more such ill-consequences. 

What not to compromise:

As we all are compelled to make a compromise, what to compromise on is always in our control. Like things which should never be compromised are your ideas, goals, faith and belief, values, self-respect, dignity, happiness, individuality, integrity and self-worth along with any other facet of life you cannot imagine giving upon. For example: For me, it is my son. Compromising on being with him to get into new ties, is an inconceivable notion for me. 

So, before compromising, be sure of not compromising on the checklist provided above along with the aspect most dear and close to you and your heart.

How much to compromise:

While compromising, be upfront in drawing a line on how much is more and beyond the limit. No matter whoever we are with, the more we let ourselves be consumed, the more we get consumed, there is no upper limit set unless we set it ourselves. 

Serve on middle grounds until you’re at the receiving end as well. If only you’re the one providing, there might be an unpleasant finish. 

For whom to compromise:

  • Who feels just right. Trust your instincts.
  • Who knows your capability and capacity to give and wouldn’t ask for beyond.
  • The one equally providing and bringing his input into the ties, making the bonds stronger. 
  • Who acknowledges your effort and recognises your intentions even if the result turns out as unexpected. 
  • The one who wouldn’t exploit your resources of varied nature in any manner. 
  • Your parents without any conditions. The fact, they bring you into this world equate all your compromises.

For whom to not-compromise:

  • The one who never acknowledges your greatest efforts.
  • For the one, who never have it enough.
  • The ones who step into the bond empty-handed.
  • The one gauges your emotions, feelings through your compromise and degree of submission. 
  • For the one who would perpetually demand more.
  • The one who will stipulate the flow of the relationship based on your compromises and efforts.
  • Anyone who deliberately demands a compromise on your reverence and value. 

Lastly, after a certain point, there should be no scope of regret left. Compromise enough for the ones worth it while keeping your values, dignity and all the above intact, hence, keeping no room for remorse.

Is there anything you would want to add on any of the areas covered in the post? Do let us know in the comments below.

Garbanzo Bean Snack – Kabuli Chana Chaat

Any snack if made right, could prove to be a beneficial catalyst in your struggle for weight loss along with many other enhancement to your health.

Chickpea chaat / Kabuli Chana Chaat / Garbanzo Bean Snack comes to your screens by glittercut.com in its Ramadan Special segment, making a valued addition to your many easy-peasy recipes.

Chickpea chaat loaded with protein and fibre is decadent and dripping delicacy which can make anyone go weak in the knees.

So, here it is:

Ingredients:

Chickpeas (soaked overnight) 250 gm

Yogurt 250 gm

Cumin powder / zeera powder 1 tsp

Salt to taste

Sugar 2 – 3 Tbsp

Apple 1/2 cup (chopped)

Pomegranate 1/2 cup arils

Mint leaves 1/4 cup (chopped)

Garnishing:

Coriander leaves

Tamarind Chutney / Imli ki chutney (optional) for recipe, click here.

Method:

Wash and soak chickpeas in water overnight. Boil the chickpeas with some salt in a pressure cooker till tender. It should take around 15 -20 minutes to pressure cook. (NOTE: The cooking time may vary.). Once done, drain the chickpeas and set aside.

In a bowl, take yogurt add sugar, salt, cumin powder and mint leaves – mix it all well.

Just before serving, add the mixed yogurt to the chickpeas along with the chopped fruits.

Garnish with coriander leaves and top it off with tamarind chutney.

Tips:

Do not add fruits to the yogurt well before time, as it might become soggy and might end up looking dreary.

You might want to add black pepper powder, red chili powder and coriander powder to the dish to make it more spicy and give it a more desi taste.

Refreshing mint lemonade

Mint as we all know is a great source of refreshment and hence is used in various ways and products as a refreshing coolant, along with its many health benefits.

Adding mint to our lemonade doubles up the refreshing gush of the drink, is a great way to beat the scorching sun and the heat on a summer day.

Glittercut.com, in its Ramadan special segment brings to you the easy-peasy recipe of a mint lemonade..

Ingredients (serves 2)

Freshly squeezed lemon juice 1/2 cup

Mint leaves 2 cups (leave aside 3-4 leaves aside for garnish)

Ice cubes 1 cup

Water 1 cup

honey (as per your taste)

Cumin powder a pinch

Equipments

Blender

Strainer

Method

Add all the above ingredients to the blender and blend until all the ingredients blend together really well.

Strain the drink into the serving glass or jug using a strainer.

Garnish with mint leaves.

It’s ready, sip it up and enjoy.. 🙂

Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award!

I am nominated for the Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award by Shweta Suresh, creator and writer of Mr Random Ramblings. Short stories, tiny tales along with her many blogging recognition add to her successful persona. Visit her blog to know more about her. You will be dazzled as well. I can’t thank you enough. ❤

Rules:

  • Thank the person that nominated you with a link to their blog.
  • Make a post of the award (with a photo).
  • Post the rules.
  • Ask 5-10 questions of your choice.
  • Nominate 10-30 other bloggers.
  • Follow Vincent Ehindero at vincentehindero.wordpress.com (to qualify for a free blog promotion and shoutout) and more blogging opportunities.

Answer to Shweta’s questions:

  • What’s the last movie that you watched?
    • Miracle in cell no. 7
  • What is your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
    • Walk on the beach while getting wet in the rain.
  • What are you doing to beat the lock-down blues?
    • Workout, read, pray, cook and blog.
  • How long can you go without using your phone?
    • Only for the time I’m asleep while setting my phone on silent mode.
  • What do you most value in your friends?
    • Trustworthy and supportive
  • Do you have a favorite fictional character? What makes her/him your favorite?
    • Genie, from Aladdin has a great sense of humor while he is always by Aladdin’s side and supports him in every possible way with all his powers and charm.
  • Winter or Summer?
    • Winter
  • What is love, in your point of view?
    • Love, it can only be with a living thing, with objects, it is being merely materialistic. Love makes you want go out that extra mile and take that chance for the sake of keeping the spark burning. Love is accepting the complete package of and about the other person without any discretion.
  • What is your favorite movie or TV show?
    • Dynasty / Nailed it / 4 more shots please / Band Bajaa Bride
  • If you could time travel, where (when?) would you go?
    • I would want to go back to the time when I delivered my son and relive the moment as I really miss his initial 2 years and I feel I did not enjoy it as much I should have. Now he is growing up too quickly.

While being nominated for the award, I would like to nominate my blogging friends for the same;

Niki Noir – Take a ride on my mood swing/

Apinder – Potatosandwich

Shaheen Sheikh – Sheensbuffet

Sadogapan Govind – Pointless and Prosiac

Carol Anne – Therapy Bits

Imprinted – Running on Impty

Que Tran – dathaoqutrn

Belles Days – Life in the slowest lane, view from a wheelchair

Tony Burgess – The Burgess Blog

Grace – CtrlAltEsc

Saumya Agarwal – Randomness Inked

Dear Nominees, kindly answer the questions below:

  1. What is the best thing you enjoy about blogging?
  2. Your favorite cuisine?
  3. What makes you feel being a man / woman is a blessing?
  4. What technology or advancement of science scares you the most?
  5. What technology or advancement of science amaze you the most?
  6. What technology or advancement of science, you find to be futile?
  7. What is your biggest fetish?
  8. What makes you cringe the most?
  9. Favorite lyrics ? (mention 2 lines from the lyrics & the song name)
  10. If given a chance, would you fall in love with your first love again without the consequences changing?