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Poem for me, by darling sister.

Gifts in any form pull my sentimental string, every single time I receive ’em.
The thought behind every gift itself is so touching.
A poem (above image), a gift to me by my younger sister, a writer who is exceptionally good with words.
It had been the best gift I have ever or will ever receive.
She explained my life in a nutshell and artistically presented it adroitly.
Here is the poem for my viewers to read.

Drop in your feedback in the comments below.

From dust to dust!!

A prevailing fact, humans are created from various elements found in dust, making the elements of the deceased un-foreign for the soil to accept and enfold. Hence, the famous quote, ‘from dust to dust’.

As each category has exceptions, the formation of humans is exempted from having an exception. Irrespective of colour, caste, culture, religion, status, lifestyle, etc. the unprejudiced soil invariably embraces the carcass.
The global population falls under ‘rags to riches’ bracket on the monetary axis. Yet, the life envelopes shut in the same soil, making it no different for the affluent or the destitute.

While the course of formation elements being the same as the dissolving elements for all, locating the loophole for racism, discrimination is beyond reach.

However, annihilation by mending the loopholes is practicable.
Contempo chaotic episodes of manslaughter merely for the skin colour is barbaric.

An abhorrent glance while spitting out a few spiteful phrases over morning tea shaking our heads in despair, has been our only action condemning repugnant executions.

Most of us lucky getting away from such racist situations, but, the few who land up there, hardly make it out of there safe and sound. Scarred emotionally or physically or in worst scenarios, enters walking, exits on stretchers.

How fair is it, to be treated unjustly only by the skin colour?
Is it just the skin colour or beyond that??
Verily, the skin tone has nothing to do with it. The victim of racism is at no fault, but, falls prey to the ludicrous behaviour of questionable individuals. Upbringing is extensively responsible for various approach towards different culture, caste and race.

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Beauty in diversity

Minute a soul leaves the comfort of the womb into the world, the ears are filled with remarks on the skin tone of the newborn. Whereas, a child irrespective of colour is a blessing in every sense. We are born with no discrimination sense.

Then the baby gets showered with white dolls and flawless toys. Hence, lighting a spark of ‘appearance is only that all matters.’ Here, the dolls could be of different colours and race while a few flawed toys can do help the child a great deal in accepting the impaired mates and gifted companions, inculcating a sense of inclusion and acceptance.

Our voice becomes their voice. The way we address others becomes their way of communication.

Further, idolizing actresses and actors who look good and made to appear flawless increases the want to be like them and adding to the negativeness against the concept of inclusion and acceptance.
Acknowledging and accepting the community as it is without any remorse will nullify the acts like bullying, ragging and other irking behavior.
take over the hatred for color and caste, only ending up extreme episodes of mutilation.

Let’s begin educating and practicing from our homes and within our means.
To end my post, I would like to highlight facts of racism never being a part of any religion. For example: In the Holy Quran, Allah says “…We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is he who is the most righteous of you.” (Qur’an, 49:13)
Here, stated clearly that no man is held higher or lower in position, but, is only honored based on his deeds.

Race, caste is the brainchild only of humans and we need to get rid of it.

Do comment below, your views on the subject.

Real Neat Blog Interrogations

‘Glittercut.com’ takes a the pop quiz by ‘Take a ride on my mood swing’.

Niki of Take a ride on my mood swings, wishes to have her readers dig deeper into their creative minds & answer her intrigue questions.

So, deciding to take a shot at those.. here it is.

Q1: If you could be any mythical animal what would it be?

Unicorn… Horses being my favorite animal, a flying one is all I need. 😀

Q2: What personality traits annoy you?

Laziness and lack of empathy, gets on my nerves too quickly.

Q3: What about yourself annoys you?

Overthinking and anxiety.

 Q4: If you had a super power, what would you want it to be?

I would want to be Jack Jack from ‘The Incredibles’. The third superpower baby with ‘n’ number of powers.

Q5: What is your weirdest dream location?

Bermuda triangle without a second thought.. Totally fascinating.

 Q6: If you could guest star on any movie/tv show, what would it be?

The Ellen Show… I like the show and also I would like to appear as a contestant on ‘Nailed It’. Coz I can make baking blunders without a doubt. 😛

Q7: What live concert would you miss your own best friend’s wedding to attend?

The last live concert of Amy Winehouse in 2011, followed by her death, a month later.

Q8: What words/phrases do you use most?

Trust Me | Ya right | Seriously?? | Whatever | I love you

Q9: If you were a porn star, what would your stage name be?

Glitz arc.

Q10: What trait about you would others find pretty shocking because you rarely let it come out and play?

My philosophical input.. coz most of the time I prefer to keep my opinions to myself.

Go ahead and answer the questions, looking forward to read more answers.

Here’s to Niki’s blog ‘take a ride on my mood swings’.

https://msmoodswing.wordpress.com/2020/05/15/real-neat-blog-interrogations/

Curtains are drawn!!

As the curtains are drawn at the end of the month, nothing seemed to have changed. The number of cases in my country seems to rise at an alarming rate and the condition do not seem to relax, but, severe. 

A month ago, we were in a fix as to how Ramadan will be spent, and now we ponder over ways to honour our Eid festival.  

Commonalty ciphering means to break the shell and muster, while the perceptive ministry, speeded up and declared a 24-hour lockdown right on the festive day. So, curtailed is EID to our homes and backyards. 

Withal, Eid deluged with blessings, serenity, good sleep, family time, cooking, praying and deepened gratitude is anticipated.

Eid – Ul – Fitr, celebrated after a month full of fasting from dawn to dusk. By fasting and serving the purpose of the holy month, we are accoladed in the form of Eid.

30 days of fasting, customs being observed while bevelling our line of daily routine towards faith and sanctity, embody marvellous perks.

Foremost, to discern the ache of person, enduring his pain is fundamental. Thus, fasting eminently bolsters us with the required understanding. 

Repudiating the driblets and the crumbs gush the sense of reaching out. 

Hence, fasting intensifies the empathy towards the needy leading to an escalation in charity and donations. 

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Secondly, fasting is paired with worship, prayers and invocations. Late-night prayers (Qayam-ul-Layl), Qayam refers to standing, Layl denotes night. So, standing in the night for prayers has premium benefits. 

Research shows that one reason staying up all night worked was because sleep inhibits the thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) that helps control our metabolism and, indirectly, our levels of energy. An estimated 25% to 35% of depressed patients have low TSH levels. Recent research has shown that while sleep inhibits the release of TSH, staying awake through the night and the early morning hours boosts it. This “new” scientific research is completely following the habit of the prophet (saws), which was to sleep shortly after Eisha prayer (by 7:00 pm to 8:00 pm), and wake in the very early morning hours (by 2:00 am – 3:00 am) again to pray.

Many health benefits are backed up with mental peace, serenity, tranquillity and calmness. When a soul is calm and at peace, he loves the life he is blessed with, hence increasing him in gratitude. 

Thirdly, fasting has proved to be associated with a wide range of potential health benefits, including weight loss, as well as improved blood sugar control, heart health, brain function and cancer prevention. Also, fasting can help lower cholesterol, improve glucose control, reduce liver fat and improve blood pressure. Studies have also shown that fasting, which leads to caloric restriction, increases the lifespan of even healthy people.

While fasting, taking short naps are also said to be rewarded. 

Apart from this, Muslims also practice the famous “5:2 whole day fasting” along with the other ways of intermittent fasting all round the year.

Prophet Mohammad SAW used to fast every week on Mondays and Thursdays, and now science has been proving its health, mental and emotional benefits. 

Fourth, another obligation during the month is reciting as much Quran (holy book of Muslims) as possible. Surprisingly, even recitation and memorization of the Quran gets numerous gain with it. 

“And We send down of the Qur’an that which is healing and mercy for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in loss.” (Al-Quran, 17:82)

Science has proved that by reducing our brainwave frequencies to alpha and theta, we can enjoy loads of benefits:

  • We are more spiritually connected, and more at peace. This makes us enjoy life more.
  • We are healthier due to lower stress levels
  • We can control our mind to focus completely on the present
  • We can remain calm even while under pressure
  • We can accelerate our learning
  • We can go into the state of deep relaxation, which is important to our health and emotional wellbeing

And the mind that is operating at alpha waves is also linked with creative and lateral thinking. Lateral thinking is the ability to look at a problem from many angles instead of tackling it head-on. Additionally, an alpha level mind can memorise up to 1500 words a day, as is the case with small children.

We know that mediation, which the recitation of the Quran is similar to, helps us to bring down our brain waves to this beneficial alpha and theta waves.

The conclusion of the research shows that reciting just a page of the Quran reduces our brain waves to alpha, thereby leading to a rested and calmed mind. Subhanallah!

Along with all the other benefits, the major benefits above bring emotional stability, helps practice patience, inculcates empathy and sympathy, draws each one closer to their loved ones and community. Erases our differences brings all to a common ground. 

As the month-end gets closer, we are at the benefitting end at all aspects of Ramadan, yet we are rewarded with festive days of EID-Ul-Fitr.

However, before the night of Eid – Ul – Fitr, global Muslims are obliged to buy basic commodities, groceries and goods; distribute among the poor of the locality (Fitra), assuring an ecstatic Eid celebration not stays limited to your homes. However, Zakat due can be paid out before the next Ramadan arrives. 

As considered the holiest month out of all the months, it also is a disciplinary month for all the believers. The Muslims all over the world observe and adhere to the obligations of the month. A training period for all followers with a habit-forming routine to be followed all around the year.

The believers are expected to pursue this constant behaviour throughout the year. Sadly, we struggle for consistency and persistence, keeping it limited only to this month. 

This year on wards, doing my best to follow the same practice throughout the year and as you know the benefits as well, hope you will too. 

Glittercut.com wishes its phenomenal virtual family a Wonderful, Blessed and an Auspicious Eid with your loved ones, Eid Mubarak.

#stayhome #staysafe

Do add in your viewpoints and feedback on the benefits and perks of Ramadan in the comments below.  

Service to humanity!

All over the world regardless of the ongoing season or the weather conditions, our desires, our wants and needs pay no heed. Rising with passing time, quenching the craves becomes a task. Feasible at a click of the button for some, while, regulating for the vital supply itself gets crippling for some.

The ratio of the crippling is way more than the haves. 

Instances of both classes are spotted in our vicinity. At times, the contrast is distinct, but, many times to differentiate the indigent is confusing. 

Shielded amour-propre refrains the impoverished from imploring, while expectations soaring their speculation of acquiring aid.

While the secret desire of the deprived remains cloaked, the glare of the leisure blocks the effluent from spotting the needful.

On the contrary, the benevolent irrespective of their financial holding selflessly reach out to the needy with available means, winning the ‘philanthropist’ title. 

Helping comes with the pleasure of its own, the realization of the wonders every good deed can do. 

Various channels of approaching the unfortunate are accessible. Charitable organizations or charitable events, they all aim to provide for the needy and deal with poverty one man at a time. 

However, we don’t need to bank on such events or organizations entirely for helping the deprived. 

Apart from dropping a dime in the charity box at the mall, or spending on a charity coupon, ways like feeding the poor, giving old clothes, distributing blankets or other essentials, setting up a water cooler in the neighborhood add to the list of admired charitable ways. 

At times, the deserving may be contiguous to us in relation or distance. Mindfulness to their needs is what it requires to make the first step forward to provide support.

Upon giving alms, the giver is not helping the needy, but, instead is helping himself to become a better person, to be more empathetic, and helps himself to be more generous while expecting null in return. However, the sanctification of giving charity and the elation of easing the misery of a soul is indescribable. Yet, some boastful individuals brag about their blessed cause and let the value of the deed go in vain.

Negligent of the scar left on the hearts of the receiver by their hurtful act.

The mortified receiver strained by the circumspect acceptance of funds, already burdened by the affliction and compromising their dignity, generally, expect the giver to be attentive of their emotions.

All form of charity is a component of many religions and culture. Hence, being taught and inculcated in the young minds from an early age, building a sense of service to humanity.

Similarly, in Islam, charity throughout the year is instigated while in the holy month of Ramadan, charity by the name of Zakat has been made obligatory. Zakat, the third out of five pillars of Islam, is a term used for the 2.5% of the wealth, investment or savings to be paid to the poor and needy. (to know more about the Zakat and its terms and rulings, click here). Economists have confirmed the fact that if each believer makes the due payment of zakat and does not withhold it, poverty will surely be eradicated from the face of the Earth. Sadly, that is not the case yet. 

There are various types of people in need depending on their situation, hence, broadening our opportunities for charity. 

Generosity could be in the form of giving wealth, clothing, essentials, groceries and many other desired objects which eases the gainers’ situation to some extent. 

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A man helping a dog.

However, it does not remain restricted to the same. If you possess knowledge of any kind, sharing it is charity. Helping any seeker in any manner without expecting any returns while not boasting is also a form of charity. To smile at someone is charity. Clearing the pathway of any obstacle to ease the passage for others is charity. Charity is also when you help a blind man cross the road. Showing directions to the lost is as well a form of charity. Helping out animals is also charity. planting trees as well is charity and the list goes on.

So, for reaching out and helping, you need not be rich or have a huge bank balance. Without these also you can be charitable and earn the rewards and be blessed. 

Abu Dharr narrated that the Messenger of Allah said :

“Your smiling in the face of your brother is a charity, commanding good and forbidding evil is a charity, your giving directions to a man lost in the land is a charity for you. Your seeing for a man with bad sight is a charity for you, your removal of a rock, a thorn or a bone from the road is a charity for you. Your pouring what remains from your bucket into the bucket of your brother is a charity for you.” Reference: Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1956, In-book reference: Book 27, Hadith 62, English translation: Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1956

No good deed is small. A deed which may be minuscule for us might make an enormous difference in the life of the beneficiary. So, never belittle any act of help and seize every opportunity which comes your way, doing your part in making a life lead to a better future.

What are your thoughts on charity, and is there anything you would want to add to our post, let us know in the comments below? 

Like and share & continue to spread the sparkle.

Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award!

I am nominated for the Vincent Ehindero Blogger Award by Shweta Suresh, creator and writer of Mr Random Ramblings. Short stories, tiny tales along with her many blogging recognition add to her successful persona. Visit her blog to know more about her. You will be dazzled as well. I can’t thank you enough. ❤

Rules:

  • Thank the person that nominated you with a link to their blog.
  • Make a post of the award (with a photo).
  • Post the rules.
  • Ask 5-10 questions of your choice.
  • Nominate 10-30 other bloggers.
  • Follow Vincent Ehindero at vincentehindero.wordpress.com (to qualify for a free blog promotion and shoutout) and more blogging opportunities.

Answer to Shweta’s questions:

  • What’s the last movie that you watched?
    • Miracle in cell no. 7
  • What is your favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
    • Walk on the beach while getting wet in the rain.
  • What are you doing to beat the lock-down blues?
    • Workout, read, pray, cook and blog.
  • How long can you go without using your phone?
    • Only for the time I’m asleep while setting my phone on silent mode.
  • What do you most value in your friends?
    • Trustworthy and supportive
  • Do you have a favorite fictional character? What makes her/him your favorite?
    • Genie, from Aladdin has a great sense of humor while he is always by Aladdin’s side and supports him in every possible way with all his powers and charm.
  • Winter or Summer?
    • Winter
  • What is love, in your point of view?
    • Love, it can only be with a living thing, with objects, it is being merely materialistic. Love makes you want go out that extra mile and take that chance for the sake of keeping the spark burning. Love is accepting the complete package of and about the other person without any discretion.
  • What is your favorite movie or TV show?
    • Dynasty / Nailed it / 4 more shots please / Band Bajaa Bride
  • If you could time travel, where (when?) would you go?
    • I would want to go back to the time when I delivered my son and relive the moment as I really miss his initial 2 years and I feel I did not enjoy it as much I should have. Now he is growing up too quickly.

While being nominated for the award, I would like to nominate my blogging friends for the same;

Niki Noir – Take a ride on my mood swing/

Apinder – Potatosandwich

Shaheen Sheikh – Sheensbuffet

Sadogapan Govind – Pointless and Prosiac

Carol Anne – Therapy Bits

Imprinted – Running on Impty

Que Tran – dathaoqutrn

Belles Days – Life in the slowest lane, view from a wheelchair

Tony Burgess – The Burgess Blog

Grace – CtrlAltEsc

Saumya Agarwal – Randomness Inked

Dear Nominees, kindly answer the questions below:

  1. What is the best thing you enjoy about blogging?
  2. Your favorite cuisine?
  3. What makes you feel being a man / woman is a blessing?
  4. What technology or advancement of science scares you the most?
  5. What technology or advancement of science amaze you the most?
  6. What technology or advancement of science, you find to be futile?
  7. What is your biggest fetish?
  8. What makes you cringe the most?
  9. Favorite lyrics ? (mention 2 lines from the lyrics & the song name)
  10. If given a chance, would you fall in love with your first love again without the consequences changing?

Exquisite Apple Milk

‘An apple a day, keeps the doctor away’ – a quote we have been well versed with since decades.

As apples are extremely beneficial to us, being rich in fiber, minerals, vitamin C, antioxidants and potassium, it is most affiliated to cancer cures, cutting down on diabetes, helping with digestion and many more.

Keeping the same in mind, today, on glittercut.com we have prepared a light, flavorful apple milk for our Ramadan Special segment.

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Apple milk

Ingredients (serves 3)

Apples 1 (cut into cubes)

Almonds 7-8

Vanilla ice cream 2 scoops

Cardamom powder 1/2 tsp

Sugar 2 Tbsp

Milk 1 1/2 cup

Vanilla essence 1/2 tsp

Rooh afzah (a concentrated fruit squash) 1 Tbsp (optional)

Rose water 1 Tbsp (optional)

Equipment

Blender

Method

In the blender, ad the cut apples, almonds, milk, sugar, Rooh Afza, cardamom powder, vanilla essence, and rose water. Blend all the ingredients really well till the fruit and the almonds are completely mixed with the ingredients without leaving any lumps in the drink.

Your drink is ready to serve.

Tips:

If you do not have rooh afza, add sugar as per your taste. The rooh afza just adds the light pink tinge to your drink along with sweetening it.

You can peel the apples and almonds if your like it that way, however, I did not peel any of them and yet, the drink turned out to be delightful.

Do let us know in the comments below, if you have a new recipe to share with us.

Comfort amidst crisis

Blue has been the colour of the year 2020 since its commencement. 2020 arrived at our cribs with handouts containing loneliness, unemployment, miserliness, depression and too much free time for the empty vessels to make a lot of noises.  

Many coping up with the plight by shifting their daily ways to innovative ones. Giving rise to virtual offices, makeshift work stations, online classes, virtual interaction and many more. On the other hand, a larger group is categorized under the unemployed, sick, hungry, broke and stranded. 

The world came to a standstill overnight before we could even realise. 

Inflation in uncertainties came paired with the plunge in the economy. 

As the months passed by, while nature enjoyed its pink interim, the population adopted and complied with the need of the hour and stayed put with the rules and regulations. 

Each one has been put through a unique trial to survive on its own during these times. Uninformed of the twists and turns the future holds. 

Withstanding the struggles, May 2020 knocked on the doors with the glad tidings of the blessed month of Ramadan. 

Since the dawn of my existence, Ramadan to me has been the most exciting month of the year, a month full of worship, fasting, celebrations, gatherings, feasting, invocations, frequent visits to the masjids (mosques), new outfits, gifts and many more.

Like every year, the nearing of Ramadan filled our hearts with excitement and optimism, but, with a spark of apprehension. Several doubts came into being as the serene drive through the divine month seemed futile.

However, it arrived on its destined time and like all the years, this year as well, it came with all the love, peace, serenity, alacrity and even better, more bonding. 

On day 1 of Ramadan, After suhur (early morning breakfast at dawn for entering into the day of fasting), perched on the rooftop, adoring the soft wind caress my skin while the ethereal sun rays swelled up in the sky, made me appreciate the moments I had forsaken for the sake of my busy schedule and my stressful life, it was then the blissful dawn of my Ramadan. 

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A girl saying her invocations

This Ramadan stopped by with the intentions of more than just spirituality, devotion and celebration, but, with gratitude, awakenings, reinforcing the values, counting our blessings, and with comfort amidst the crisis. 

As masjids were shut, homes have turned into masjids, as all the five prayers are being offered in a congregation with the family, yet again bonding the family even closer. 

No work, no school, meant more time for reading the holy book of Quran, getting to know the religion better, while spiritually getting more aware and every time feeling more harmony with the lock-down, making our offerings and invocations ardent than ever. For the first time in months, during the Covid 19 crisis, I was pleased with the lock-down, as we all stuck together while fulfilling the chores assigned to each one of us making the rituals of Ramadan more fun and lively. My dad leading all the prayers of the day makes my heart swell up with pride as he succeeds in preserving the true spirit of the month. 

Seizing the free time, I instil knowledge all about Ramadan, religion and Quran to my son, which I doubt I would have been capable in a regular Ramadan. 

However, there are traditional Ramadan happenings which we miss, like exchanging of dishes with our neighbors, the night prayers at the masjids, the massive tents set up at masjids for free-give-away Iftaars (a meal had after the sunset to open the fast), no new outfits for Eid (the month is then concluded by celebrating a festival known as Eid – al – Fitr). no gatherings and many such simple pleasures. 

Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the believer is in good shape in every situation. He praises Allah Almighty even while his soul is taken out of his body.

Source: Musnad Aḥmad 2475.

I am thankful to my Lord, I have this Ramadan amidst lock-down. I guess it’s what we needed the most to comfort our souls, mind and body while awakening ourselves spiritually amid all the stress and adversity. 

What is your take on Ramadan during this lock-down, do let us know in the comments below?

Do let us know what has been your comfort element this lock-down. in the comments below?

Emotional Sedation!!

Admiration, adoration, appreciation of beauty, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, craving, disgust, emphatic pain, entrancement, excitement, fear, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, relief, etc are all various categories of emotions. 

A typical person would experience many of the above emotions in different instances. 

An individual who encounters various emotions and gracefully handles it is taken to be mentally stable along with being aware of himself and his actions. 

The correlation of emotions with feelings is that of height and weight. 

Every emotion has a specific feel along with it. 

Every emotion is a blessing, be it of any kind. 

However, today, I would like to dedicate my post to emotional sedation. Sedative effect on our mental awareness of emotions. 

A traumatic childhood, an unexpected negatively charged extreme event which we were never prepared to face at the given time. It’s a hard blow on our psychological and emotional capacity of dealing with situations. Thus, leading to tinnitus, further resulting in lingering emotional numbness.

Emotional numbness, surprisingly, apart from the above-stated cause, can also be cultural and societal. In many cultures, the emotional state is not given due attention and hence, crying is related to weakness, while anger is looked up for strength. These societies pushing the mental health under the carpet, emphasizes its people on being stoic, rational and emotionally invulnerable. 

Having oneself in these various situations, the preferred road is simple, not to feel any emotions at all. 

The instance can be no better than that of a rape victim. The atrocious episode leaves the victim with a string of loud tinnitus and moving on to emotional numbness. the heinous event concludes in a void of emotions. Unable to feel, express or communicate becomes new configuration in the system of the sufferer. Similarly, severe loss, stress, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), physical and mental abuse, are also few of many causes for sedation of emotions.

When speaking of mental health, emotional numbness is still a secret disease calling out for more attention. large numbers are oblivious of their malady, while others are in denial, as being stoic, stable and emotionally aware are always valued and held in high prestige. 

The crisis awareness of emotional numbness is eminent. Somebody in sentimental anaesthesia is no longer aware of any feeling, emotions or sentiments. Be it of his own or anyone involved, hence, dysfunctional coping mechanisms, depression, spiritual emptiness, inability to enjoy life, inability to form close and fulfilling relationships, disconnection from the inner self, confusion, irritability, fatigue, addictions, chronic illnesses, and somatic illnesses, inconsideration, insensitiveness, etc follows.

Being mindful of ourselves and ones around us is the key to reach out. 

Mentioned below are a few analytical ways in which one can be pinpointed.

  • Failure to express strong negative or positive emotions
  • Inability to “fully participate” in life (i.e. feeling like you’re a passive observer)
  • ‘Life is like a dream’ sense. (a feeling of unreality)
  • Living on autopilot.
  • Absence of interest in schemes, others find fun.
  • Feeling aloof from others.
  • An impulse to revoke from friends and family members.
  • Emotions are only felt in the body as sensations, but not by the mind
  • Animosity for people who show vivid emotions (both positive and negative)
  • Feeling numb in situations which should typically engender strong emotion
  • Panic attack when intense emotions eventually breakthrough.
  • Emptiness within.
  • Physical and mental insentience or blandness.

The extreme numbness may even influence the patient for suicidal attempts too.

Once we know the causes. Identify the silent bearers to recommend the ways to cure the silent disease.

As, the sentimental sedation is not permanent and so, the cure is available for both, long and short term. 

  • Identify the underlying reason for the numbness. 
  • See a psychiatrist. It is completely alright to visit a mental-health doctor. The old fashioned taboo of having a mental health issue is no more a dispute (at least in many countries and cultures). 
  • Talk to people who you feel closest to. People who make you feel connected, communicate and help yourself attain relief.
  • Exercise daily. Yoga, boxing, kick-boxing are great stress busters. However, a casual walk around the neighborhood also does wonders.  
  • Get ample sleep. Lack of sleep adds to the irritation and fatigue, hence, worsening the situation.
  • A well-balanced healthy diet is a must. It helps regulates and improves your mood.
  • Stress management. Minimize the stress and engage in stress-busting activities like meditation, prayers. Identify the stress enhancing factors and try to deal with them positively while getting rid of them eventually.
  • Determine emotions and articulate emotions. if you find this the hardest. do not delay in seeing a psychiatrist, let him tap your emotions for you and you can take it forward from there. 🙂

To the ones who are suffering from emotional numbness, you are not the only one. There are a lot more fighting the secret fight daily and maybe in the worst of situations. This sickness is momentary if crucial care is provided at once.

Have your say on emotional numbness in the comments below.

Had we confessed!! – (Guest Post)

Dear roll no 638

Subject: Had we confessed!

10th October 1991, Thursday when Roll No 638 bewitched me just to change the course of my perspective, priorities and preferences. Ever since then I began to live in a world of fantasy wherein    everything revolved around him. Days definitely commenced with my routine customary prayers, but now they changed too.  Imploring God to have a glimpse of Roll No 638 became its objective. Sleepless nights were spent weaving dreams of us together while days were spent supplicating that he does not play truant. But with each passing day, his reckless play-truant attitude gradually grew stronger, making my prayers more intense and his appearance less likely.  

Twenty Eight long years, yet our first encounter is etched deep in my memory, every detail distinctively fresh and crisp. It was our college excursion where we had first met; with every eye contact no dialogues were exchanged yet our eyes spoke volumes making the day worth memorable. Distinctly reminiscing when he first appeared before me, with all his opulent personality, dressed in the most casual grey stonewashed jeans and white printed shirt, his chiselled jaw lifted with a sweet, pleasing smile accentuating his devil’s tooth, his eyes twinkling with impishness, his dark black hair neatly done behind and his voice though exuding pride yet was soothing and genial. He had an unusual lethal combination of sturdy, muscular physique and an incredible sense of humour (a combination almost extinct in men then).  He was the Greek God per se, a bearer of a charming, smart and attractive demeanour. A complete package any girl would fall for. He had successfully cast his spell upon me that day.

He became the reason to regularly attend college. My eyes would scan the classroom only to rest on him and vice versa. His look would pulverize me, blushingly I would rip my eyes away from his. Less attention was on the lessons but more on his hilarious comments and mischief. He was roll no 638 and I was roll no 645, we occupied adjacent benches during exams. Being a regular student, my notes would always make rounds in the class. However, my adonis made use of them only during exams for cheating purposes. Thus my only motive to study for exams was to share my answer sheet with him in order to ensure that we remain class fellows.

Since we were pursuing science, laboratory sessions were an essential part of the course. He would be irregular for lectures but fortunately regular for lab sessions. I would always look forward for these sessions as we were to arrange ourselves as per our roll numbers. We shared the same lab counter for experiments. We had many instances where we bumped into each other, grabbed the same test tube or the same chemical but ironically spoke nothing just smiled and drew ourselves in different directions. With him around I was oblivious to the world around me. We would enjoy every silent and speechless conversation between us.

Probably, coming from a conservative family social barriers, fears and pressures prohibited us from being extrovert. Subsequently, deterring us to speak to each other too, but however, we shared an amazing oculesics communication.

Today, I sit back and traverse down the memory lane just to understand that life goes on. No one is indispensable and so is he. My life has moved on unfortunately without him but with beautiful memories of his charismatic smile, his humour filled one-liners and his devil-may-care attitude. Optimistically I believe his life too must have moved on successfully with someone worthy.

But, today while ruminating the past, I regret not speaking to him at least once! How I regret he could have taken the initiative to speak to me at least once (being the man)! How I wish we could express our feelings for each other in words! Why didn’t I ever muster up my courage and confess? Why didn’t he ever articulate his feelings into words?

 I am positive, wherever he is, he might be still remembering me. As I still remember him. His well-being is always included in my prayers till date but crossing paths now after 28 years is always excluded.

Stay blessed wherever and whoever you are with …

Regretfully

SH

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