Out of order!!

Machines going out of order is acceptable. Toilets under maintenance, as well, is bearable.
The potentiality of eliminating of clogs, blocks and all kinds of chunks, be it from a human heart or a pipeline of any kind is feasible.
Ousting of substantial disorders is relatively attainable than impalpable.
But, what if, the impediment is nowhere but mentally.

YES! a mental block, struggling to survive through this post anticipating losing it all.

Never have I ever faced this before. Is it for never being a writer or tedious previous months? (I always wanted to use the ‘never have I ever’ phrase, I get to use it at last. YAYY!!)

Or, is my creativity being crushed by my angst and stress?
Or, is it the change I am going through in my life?
Instead of relaxing and relishing the mini-uninvited break, being all jittery is the only task I have accomplished with perfection.
Months have gone by, staying motivated initially meant smooth sailing through the silent sea oblivion of the intramural storm rising with each passing day.

The mental block is piling up, so, today, deciding to go against the flow and write all about it. Since 11:00 am, struggling and yet, here I am, at 5:00 pm still battling for words and focus.

Sharing experiences:
Recently, at a local centre, I happen to meet an individual who invested his savings from his job in setting up three shops in the marketplace.
Only to find them turn to ashes one morning from the night’s blaze. Around AED half a million trickling down to just AED 500 in the pocket.
However, Love and tragedy, both, as unpredictable as our future with no fixed time, place or scenario.
Overnight bankruptcy, lifelong savings down the drain, not to mention his breakup at the time, yet, the man is content and grateful as his employees or himself remained unharmed. Helping him filter the right kind of people worth sticking around while emphasizing the value of life over the love of objects.

Positivity floods through when we meet such experienced people elevating appreciation for our situation.
Nonetheless, it is all right to go through dejection and lowliness. However, to stay dejected and miserable is not alright.

This post is my attempt to get back to what I love doing, ‘blogging’.

Let us know in the comments below, have you suffered from a mental block ever or have risen stronger from your previous fall?? Would love to hear your story.

From dust to dust!!

A prevailing fact, humans are created from various elements found in dust, making the elements of the deceased un-foreign for the soil to accept and enfold. Hence, the famous quote, ‘from dust to dust’.

As each category has exceptions, the formation of humans is exempted from having an exception. Irrespective of colour, caste, culture, religion, status, lifestyle, etc. the unprejudiced soil invariably embraces the carcass.
The global population falls under ‘rags to riches’ bracket on the monetary axis. Yet, the life envelopes shut in the same soil, making it no different for the affluent or the destitute.

While the course of formation elements being the same as the dissolving elements for all, locating the loophole for racism, discrimination is beyond reach.

However, annihilation by mending the loopholes is practicable.
Contempo chaotic episodes of manslaughter merely for the skin colour is barbaric.

An abhorrent glance while spitting out a few spiteful phrases over morning tea shaking our heads in despair, has been our only action condemning repugnant executions.

Most of us lucky getting away from such racist situations, but, the few who land up there, hardly make it out of there safe and sound. Scarred emotionally or physically or in worst scenarios, enters walking, exits on stretchers.

How fair is it, to be treated unjustly only by the skin colour?
Is it just the skin colour or beyond that??
Verily, the skin tone has nothing to do with it. The victim of racism is at no fault, but, falls prey to the ludicrous behaviour of questionable individuals. Upbringing is extensively responsible for various approach towards different culture, caste and race.

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Beauty in diversity

Minute a soul leaves the comfort of the womb into the world, the ears are filled with remarks on the skin tone of the newborn. Whereas, a child irrespective of colour is a blessing in every sense. We are born with no discrimination sense.

Then the baby gets showered with white dolls and flawless toys. Hence, lighting a spark of ‘appearance is only that all matters.’ Here, the dolls could be of different colours and race while a few flawed toys can do help the child a great deal in accepting the impaired mates and gifted companions, inculcating a sense of inclusion and acceptance.

Our voice becomes their voice. The way we address others becomes their way of communication.

Further, idolizing actresses and actors who look good and made to appear flawless increases the want to be like them and adding to the negativeness against the concept of inclusion and acceptance.
Acknowledging and accepting the community as it is without any remorse will nullify the acts like bullying, ragging and other irking behavior.
take over the hatred for color and caste, only ending up extreme episodes of mutilation.

Let’s begin educating and practicing from our homes and within our means.
To end my post, I would like to highlight facts of racism never being a part of any religion. For example: In the Holy Quran, Allah says “…We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of God is he who is the most righteous of you.” (Qur’an, 49:13)
Here, stated clearly that no man is held higher or lower in position, but, is only honored based on his deeds.

Race, caste is the brainchild only of humans and we need to get rid of it.

Do comment below, your views on the subject.

A little give, A little take!!

The key mechanism of any relationship lies in ‘a little give, a little take’.

Parent-child bond, bonds through marriage or a professional tie, all are signified while accomplishing the potential only by two-way traffic, ‘A little give, A little take’. 

A time bomb named as ‘relationship’ comprising cogs, namely, ‘providing and receiving’ operate in absolute sync consuming essential components like love, loyalty, trust, respect, communication, etc as the lubricant to avoid friction. If at all, any imbalance in the two cogs occurs, the mishap generally is followed by the glitch in the time bomb emanating catastrophes.

21st-century bondings have no common grounds with the ties and bonds shared back in the olden days. Families, friends and acquaintances stuck together for ages, then. 

Presently, any family connection or social affiliation easily associated to a time bomb, reason being, lack in the balance of giving and taking. Either, it is excess giving & no taking or, excess taking & no giving, in any case, bringing the connection ties’ survival rate to nearly zero. 

The shift in priorities has led to poignant consequences, lately. Willingness to compromise bearing in mind the well-being of the bond or the greater good coming with it has been engulfed in the love of mere commodity and rank.

An integral part of a bond is to compromise. 

However, to compromise is traditionally mistaken for acquiescing consumption of ourselves. Or, when the committed party is overly consumed ensued by his dedication, loyalty, love and priority.

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A little give, a little take

To compromise:

To gain benefits, giving up on a few is enforced. It is nearly impossible to have all that is desired by one. Which raises the question of, what to compromise on and for what to strive? 

Individual choices, mindsets, desires, tradition, qualification, upbringing and circumstances execute the decision of what to compromise.

Overlooking education for a blissful happily ever after is preferable for some, while sweeping the idea of marriage under the carpet for a successful career might be more convenient for some. Quitting a job for taking care of the households may be the idea of compromising for many, while compelled signup as a breadwinner of the house become the compromise for some. 

The complication has never been ‘the compromise’, but, what is being compromised and how much is being compromised. 

The exploitation of a compromising person excels in assorted setbacks. 

The mishap may be distinct, right from mental breakdowns to breakups, from disloyalty to deception, from animosity to resentment, and many more such ill-consequences. 

What not to compromise:

As we all are compelled to make a compromise, what to compromise on is always in our control. Like things which should never be compromised are your ideas, goals, faith and belief, values, self-respect, dignity, happiness, individuality, integrity and self-worth along with any other facet of life you cannot imagine giving upon. For example: For me, it is my son. Compromising on being with him to get into new ties, is an inconceivable notion for me. 

So, before compromising, be sure of not compromising on the checklist provided above along with the aspect most dear and close to you and your heart.

How much to compromise:

While compromising, be upfront in drawing a line on how much is more and beyond the limit. No matter whoever we are with, the more we let ourselves be consumed, the more we get consumed, there is no upper limit set unless we set it ourselves. 

Serve on middle grounds until you’re at the receiving end as well. If only you’re the one providing, there might be an unpleasant finish. 

For whom to compromise:

  • Who feels just right. Trust your instincts.
  • Who knows your capability and capacity to give and wouldn’t ask for beyond.
  • The one equally providing and bringing his input into the ties, making the bonds stronger. 
  • Who acknowledges your effort and recognises your intentions even if the result turns out as unexpected. 
  • The one who wouldn’t exploit your resources of varied nature in any manner. 
  • Your parents without any conditions. The fact, they bring you into this world equate all your compromises.

For whom to not-compromise:

  • The one who never acknowledges your greatest efforts.
  • For the one, who never have it enough.
  • The ones who step into the bond empty-handed.
  • The one gauges your emotions, feelings through your compromise and degree of submission. 
  • For the one who would perpetually demand more.
  • The one who will stipulate the flow of the relationship based on your compromises and efforts.
  • Anyone who deliberately demands a compromise on your reverence and value. 

Lastly, after a certain point, there should be no scope of regret left. Compromise enough for the ones worth it while keeping your values, dignity and all the above intact, hence, keeping no room for remorse.

Is there anything you would want to add on any of the areas covered in the post? Do let us know in the comments below.

Whats your personality?

Personality is the glitter that sends your little gleam across the footlights and the orchestra pit into that big black space where the audience is. – Mae West


I recently came across a personality test. (it’s new for me, at least)

An interesting way to have a deeper understanding of your character behavior and your perspective towards life.

Your strengths / weaknesses, approach towards your love life, What kind of a parent you will make or you are already, how do you tend to perform career wise, and many more such details about your personality are revealed upon spending approx 10 – 12 mins on this test and answering a set of questions about your instincts and habitual behavior.

I propose everyone to take a shot at this test, as it helps you get better at reflective practices and develop the needed aspects of yourself while being able to cherish the attributes which might have seemed to be trivial.

As being in the administration and HR, I would now be making it necessary for the candidates to turn in the results of this test as an added info about the interviewee.

As my test result, I scored an “Advocate Personality” type.

To know more about the advocate personality, click here.

Here is the link to the test, feel free to take the test and share the answers if you feel appropriate.

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

While taking the test, please be super honest,as this will be a reflective exercise and help you know yourself better.

Do let us know in the comments below if you have taken the test already and what do you feel about it or share your answers to the test with us.

Service to humanity!

All over the world regardless of the ongoing season or the weather conditions, our desires, our wants and needs pay no heed. Rising with passing time, quenching the craves becomes a task. Feasible at a click of the button for some, while, regulating for the vital supply itself gets crippling for some.

The ratio of the crippling is way more than the haves. 

Instances of both classes are spotted in our vicinity. At times, the contrast is distinct, but, many times to differentiate the indigent is confusing. 

Shielded amour-propre refrains the impoverished from imploring, while expectations soaring their speculation of acquiring aid.

While the secret desire of the deprived remains cloaked, the glare of the leisure blocks the effluent from spotting the needful.

On the contrary, the benevolent irrespective of their financial holding selflessly reach out to the needy with available means, winning the ‘philanthropist’ title. 

Helping comes with the pleasure of its own, the realization of the wonders every good deed can do. 

Various channels of approaching the unfortunate are accessible. Charitable organizations or charitable events, they all aim to provide for the needy and deal with poverty one man at a time. 

However, we don’t need to bank on such events or organizations entirely for helping the deprived. 

Apart from dropping a dime in the charity box at the mall, or spending on a charity coupon, ways like feeding the poor, giving old clothes, distributing blankets or other essentials, setting up a water cooler in the neighborhood add to the list of admired charitable ways. 

At times, the deserving may be contiguous to us in relation or distance. Mindfulness to their needs is what it requires to make the first step forward to provide support.

Upon giving alms, the giver is not helping the needy, but, instead is helping himself to become a better person, to be more empathetic, and helps himself to be more generous while expecting null in return. However, the sanctification of giving charity and the elation of easing the misery of a soul is indescribable. Yet, some boastful individuals brag about their blessed cause and let the value of the deed go in vain.

Negligent of the scar left on the hearts of the receiver by their hurtful act.

The mortified receiver strained by the circumspect acceptance of funds, already burdened by the affliction and compromising their dignity, generally, expect the giver to be attentive of their emotions.

All form of charity is a component of many religions and culture. Hence, being taught and inculcated in the young minds from an early age, building a sense of service to humanity.

Similarly, in Islam, charity throughout the year is instigated while in the holy month of Ramadan, charity by the name of Zakat has been made obligatory. Zakat, the third out of five pillars of Islam, is a term used for the 2.5% of the wealth, investment or savings to be paid to the poor and needy. (to know more about the Zakat and its terms and rulings, click here). Economists have confirmed the fact that if each believer makes the due payment of zakat and does not withhold it, poverty will surely be eradicated from the face of the Earth. Sadly, that is not the case yet. 

There are various types of people in need depending on their situation, hence, broadening our opportunities for charity. 

Generosity could be in the form of giving wealth, clothing, essentials, groceries and many other desired objects which eases the gainers’ situation to some extent. 

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A man helping a dog.

However, it does not remain restricted to the same. If you possess knowledge of any kind, sharing it is charity. Helping any seeker in any manner without expecting any returns while not boasting is also a form of charity. To smile at someone is charity. Clearing the pathway of any obstacle to ease the passage for others is charity. Charity is also when you help a blind man cross the road. Showing directions to the lost is as well a form of charity. Helping out animals is also charity. planting trees as well is charity and the list goes on.

So, for reaching out and helping, you need not be rich or have a huge bank balance. Without these also you can be charitable and earn the rewards and be blessed. 

Abu Dharr narrated that the Messenger of Allah said :

“Your smiling in the face of your brother is a charity, commanding good and forbidding evil is a charity, your giving directions to a man lost in the land is a charity for you. Your seeing for a man with bad sight is a charity for you, your removal of a rock, a thorn or a bone from the road is a charity for you. Your pouring what remains from your bucket into the bucket of your brother is a charity for you.” Reference: Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1956, In-book reference: Book 27, Hadith 62, English translation: Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1956

No good deed is small. A deed which may be minuscule for us might make an enormous difference in the life of the beneficiary. So, never belittle any act of help and seize every opportunity which comes your way, doing your part in making a life lead to a better future.

What are your thoughts on charity, and is there anything you would want to add to our post, let us know in the comments below? 

Like and share & continue to spread the sparkle.

Comfort amidst crisis

Blue has been the colour of the year 2020 since its commencement. 2020 arrived at our cribs with handouts containing loneliness, unemployment, miserliness, depression and too much free time for the empty vessels to make a lot of noises.  

Many coping up with the plight by shifting their daily ways to innovative ones. Giving rise to virtual offices, makeshift work stations, online classes, virtual interaction and many more. On the other hand, a larger group is categorized under the unemployed, sick, hungry, broke and stranded. 

The world came to a standstill overnight before we could even realise. 

Inflation in uncertainties came paired with the plunge in the economy. 

As the months passed by, while nature enjoyed its pink interim, the population adopted and complied with the need of the hour and stayed put with the rules and regulations. 

Each one has been put through a unique trial to survive on its own during these times. Uninformed of the twists and turns the future holds. 

Withstanding the struggles, May 2020 knocked on the doors with the glad tidings of the blessed month of Ramadan. 

Since the dawn of my existence, Ramadan to me has been the most exciting month of the year, a month full of worship, fasting, celebrations, gatherings, feasting, invocations, frequent visits to the masjids (mosques), new outfits, gifts and many more.

Like every year, the nearing of Ramadan filled our hearts with excitement and optimism, but, with a spark of apprehension. Several doubts came into being as the serene drive through the divine month seemed futile.

However, it arrived on its destined time and like all the years, this year as well, it came with all the love, peace, serenity, alacrity and even better, more bonding. 

On day 1 of Ramadan, After suhur (early morning breakfast at dawn for entering into the day of fasting), perched on the rooftop, adoring the soft wind caress my skin while the ethereal sun rays swelled up in the sky, made me appreciate the moments I had forsaken for the sake of my busy schedule and my stressful life, it was then the blissful dawn of my Ramadan. 

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A girl saying her invocations

This Ramadan stopped by with the intentions of more than just spirituality, devotion and celebration, but, with gratitude, awakenings, reinforcing the values, counting our blessings, and with comfort amidst the crisis. 

As masjids were shut, homes have turned into masjids, as all the five prayers are being offered in a congregation with the family, yet again bonding the family even closer. 

No work, no school, meant more time for reading the holy book of Quran, getting to know the religion better, while spiritually getting more aware and every time feeling more harmony with the lock-down, making our offerings and invocations ardent than ever. For the first time in months, during the Covid 19 crisis, I was pleased with the lock-down, as we all stuck together while fulfilling the chores assigned to each one of us making the rituals of Ramadan more fun and lively. My dad leading all the prayers of the day makes my heart swell up with pride as he succeeds in preserving the true spirit of the month. 

Seizing the free time, I instil knowledge all about Ramadan, religion and Quran to my son, which I doubt I would have been capable in a regular Ramadan. 

However, there are traditional Ramadan happenings which we miss, like exchanging of dishes with our neighbors, the night prayers at the masjids, the massive tents set up at masjids for free-give-away Iftaars (a meal had after the sunset to open the fast), no new outfits for Eid (the month is then concluded by celebrating a festival known as Eid – al – Fitr). no gatherings and many such simple pleasures. 

Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the believer is in good shape in every situation. He praises Allah Almighty even while his soul is taken out of his body.

Source: Musnad Aḥmad 2475.

I am thankful to my Lord, I have this Ramadan amidst lock-down. I guess it’s what we needed the most to comfort our souls, mind and body while awakening ourselves spiritually amid all the stress and adversity. 

What is your take on Ramadan during this lock-down, do let us know in the comments below?

Do let us know what has been your comfort element this lock-down. in the comments below?

Emotional Sedation!!

Admiration, adoration, appreciation of beauty, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, craving, disgust, emphatic pain, entrancement, excitement, fear, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, relief, etc are all various categories of emotions. 

A typical person would experience many of the above emotions in different instances. 

An individual who encounters various emotions and gracefully handles it is taken to be mentally stable along with being aware of himself and his actions. 

The correlation of emotions with feelings is that of height and weight. 

Every emotion has a specific feel along with it. 

Every emotion is a blessing, be it of any kind. 

However, today, I would like to dedicate my post to emotional sedation. Sedative effect on our mental awareness of emotions. 

A traumatic childhood, an unexpected negatively charged extreme event which we were never prepared to face at the given time. It’s a hard blow on our psychological and emotional capacity of dealing with situations. Thus, leading to tinnitus, further resulting in lingering emotional numbness.

Emotional numbness, surprisingly, apart from the above-stated cause, can also be cultural and societal. In many cultures, the emotional state is not given due attention and hence, crying is related to weakness, while anger is looked up for strength. These societies pushing the mental health under the carpet, emphasizes its people on being stoic, rational and emotionally invulnerable. 

Having oneself in these various situations, the preferred road is simple, not to feel any emotions at all. 

The instance can be no better than that of a rape victim. The atrocious episode leaves the victim with a string of loud tinnitus and moving on to emotional numbness. the heinous event concludes in a void of emotions. Unable to feel, express or communicate becomes new configuration in the system of the sufferer. Similarly, severe loss, stress, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), physical and mental abuse, are also few of many causes for sedation of emotions.

When speaking of mental health, emotional numbness is still a secret disease calling out for more attention. large numbers are oblivious of their malady, while others are in denial, as being stoic, stable and emotionally aware are always valued and held in high prestige. 

The crisis awareness of emotional numbness is eminent. Somebody in sentimental anaesthesia is no longer aware of any feeling, emotions or sentiments. Be it of his own or anyone involved, hence, dysfunctional coping mechanisms, depression, spiritual emptiness, inability to enjoy life, inability to form close and fulfilling relationships, disconnection from the inner self, confusion, irritability, fatigue, addictions, chronic illnesses, and somatic illnesses, inconsideration, insensitiveness, etc follows.

Being mindful of ourselves and ones around us is the key to reach out. 

Mentioned below are a few analytical ways in which one can be pinpointed.

  • Failure to express strong negative or positive emotions
  • Inability to “fully participate” in life (i.e. feeling like you’re a passive observer)
  • ‘Life is like a dream’ sense. (a feeling of unreality)
  • Living on autopilot.
  • Absence of interest in schemes, others find fun.
  • Feeling aloof from others.
  • An impulse to revoke from friends and family members.
  • Emotions are only felt in the body as sensations, but not by the mind
  • Animosity for people who show vivid emotions (both positive and negative)
  • Feeling numb in situations which should typically engender strong emotion
  • Panic attack when intense emotions eventually breakthrough.
  • Emptiness within.
  • Physical and mental insentience or blandness.

The extreme numbness may even influence the patient for suicidal attempts too.

Once we know the causes. Identify the silent bearers to recommend the ways to cure the silent disease.

As, the sentimental sedation is not permanent and so, the cure is available for both, long and short term. 

  • Identify the underlying reason for the numbness. 
  • See a psychiatrist. It is completely alright to visit a mental-health doctor. The old fashioned taboo of having a mental health issue is no more a dispute (at least in many countries and cultures). 
  • Talk to people who you feel closest to. People who make you feel connected, communicate and help yourself attain relief.
  • Exercise daily. Yoga, boxing, kick-boxing are great stress busters. However, a casual walk around the neighborhood also does wonders.  
  • Get ample sleep. Lack of sleep adds to the irritation and fatigue, hence, worsening the situation.
  • A well-balanced healthy diet is a must. It helps regulates and improves your mood.
  • Stress management. Minimize the stress and engage in stress-busting activities like meditation, prayers. Identify the stress enhancing factors and try to deal with them positively while getting rid of them eventually.
  • Determine emotions and articulate emotions. if you find this the hardest. do not delay in seeing a psychiatrist, let him tap your emotions for you and you can take it forward from there. 🙂

To the ones who are suffering from emotional numbness, you are not the only one. There are a lot more fighting the secret fight daily and maybe in the worst of situations. This sickness is momentary if crucial care is provided at once.

Have your say on emotional numbness in the comments below.

The Macho Sentiment (Guest Post)

“For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

The world knows it as Newton’s third law of motion, I am sure he wanted to say the Third Law of Emotion. Because, whatever you say or do, it tends to generate a certain kind of emotional reaction in other people. This is very evident in the case of social media celebrities – one tweet or one Instagram story from them and you can see all emotions flooding the comment section. 

When I agreed to write about this topic, I was a little unsure if I can do it. Not because I do not have emotions. I do realize my eyes oozing out a teardrop when I am watching an emotional scene and my hand wisely wiping it off secretly before my wife finds out about this and mocks me. I was hesitant because I cannot even name many of the emotions. Just like I can recognize only basic colours on the rainbow and not all the shades on the paint company’s colour catalogue, I understand the basic emotions like fear, anger, and happiness but I cannot clearly identify the other emotions and feelings. Partly because, as men, we do not talk about other emotions much. It is not very common to hear two buddies, at least as I have observed, having conversations like “I am extremely anxious about this situation”, “This made me super emotional, I feel sad”, or “I am feeling ashamed”. Most of the conversations will be about positive emotions like pride, excitement & amusement.

Each one is different. In my case, many a time I catch myself going into an empty cocoon without thinking about anything. I don’t feel anything – neither happy nor sad, neither anger nor fear. I am calm. I think this is the enlightenment state that many spiritual leaders talk about. My wife doesn’t think so. She says I may have some sort of diurnal lagophthalmos. As a man who has not read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, I refuse to let her assumptions shake my belief. I was thinking maybe I am special until I found this video from Mark Gungor. The response from the crowd says how true this could be for all men. All men seem to get into a box (not the final one, although one day they will). 

I am not an expert in this field. If I was, I would be publishing a book instead and charging for it. In order to learn more about emotions I started reading the book, “Master your emotions”. I must say that I was not too emotionally attached to the content and set it aside for another time. Like any normal human being slaving in the Information Technology world would do, I resorted to Dr.Google and asked, “Hey Google, how do men handle their emotions?” There were a bunch of articles both from experts and from wannabes like me. Some interesting ways that men use to handle their emotions, that caught my attention, are listed below. 

The feelings may be expressed in the form of physical ailments. It looks like men tend to complain of sudden headaches, backaches etc when they are emotional. Have I done this before? I do get headaches and backaches but mostly they are either because I am sick or because of strenuous physical work like sitting in that uncomfortable seat in the flight for 9 hours. I do feel fatigued on certain days but that’s a rare occurrence.  Otherwise, I was guilty of occasionally faking physical complaints to avoid a certain situation or people. Maybe that was my way of expressing disinterest? Is disinterest an emotion? Not sure. Only experts can say. 

Men remodel one feeling into other feelings. They tend to convert emotions that they perceive as weak like sadness into an emotion that they feel is strong, like anger. The belief that it is okay for men to express anger but not sadness could be because the former is considered as a more masculine feeling. We have all done that. When I feel incredibly sad about how little common sense few people have, I turn the hulk mode on and smash that like button, err, smash whatever is in hand. I miss my Nokia 3310. Sigh!

Walking away is the default survival instinct. When men find themselves in an emotional situation they tend to walk away from that place or situation to calm themselves down. Be it when you are arguing with your better half or when you are in a group where the stupidity hits the fan. I have walked away from a lot of arguments when I sense that my heartbeat is rising up. But with this Corona fiasco on, not many people have the luxury of walking away from an argument. Please remember facing the conflict and having that argument with your wife is far healthier than going away and risking your life. 

Is it really a blog post if you don’t leave a quote at the end to ponder about? Here is the food for thought on handling emotions from an anonymous person that is generally attributed to Lord Buddha (or Mark Twain, if you know what I mean) on the internet. 

“Don’t promise when you are happy, don’t reply when you are angry and don’t decide when you are sad.”

Mr Sadogapan Govindan

https://sadagopangovindan.com/

To know more about the author, Mr Sadogapan, click here.

Do let us know in the comments below, if you feel the same about how men handle emotions or if you have anything more to add to the list.

Covet for reminiscence!!

Every moment worth enduring is captured, felt and seized in various forms. Since ages, gravitation to relive cherished moments coveted. History witnesses the quenching of such desires to capture moments using various ways. Umpteen techniques adopted to document such moments and memories have been registered throughout history.
Be it live sketch, sculptures in the mountains, statue making, sewing a war scene, or painting a wedding scene, etc is scattered all over the map in various museums and galleries.
Hanker seemed to have not died a bit with the passing time. It has evolved beyond imagination, just the approach of captivation has undergone a drastic transformation.
The paintings, sketching, sculpting has been all taken over by myriad photography, yet, making the obsolete an invaluable affair.
Today, I do this post, wondering the pining for photography people across the globe share.

A picture clicked from a plane capturing the beauty.


Photography is no more confined to moments, occasions and cherished moments, but, has widened horizons to abstract, aesthetic, macro, beauty, nude, underwater, time-lapse, stock, still, satellite, aerial, panoramic, perspective, landscape, conceptual, candid, portrait, action and many more versions. Aesthetic photography however always intrigues me, while candid shots are my favorite.

Nonetheless, the most trending one is the ‘selfie’ photography, conventional kind at the disposable of a layman.
The moments captured on a reel, are hardly ever re-visited, nisi you are a professional or capture moments out of passion.
Irrespective of the probability of a re-visit, we tend to click, snap, shoot and capture moments. Usually having ourselves on cleave to either to seize the moment or to live the moment.
A part of the population falls under the ‘live in the moment’ banner, while the other half, is busy capturing every single moment and making it feasible for a re-visit.

A picture clicked in Kashmir, India


Every kind of photography is a form of art and hard work. It can only come out beautiful and effective when done with passion and love.
However, the emotional rush on the sight of every moment from the past through snaps is overwhelming. The potential power to pause your errands and make you spend hours going through the clicks one after the other is undeniable.
A concoction of emotions deluges our heads rewinding the exhaustive arena of the picture. Making the time passed by since then, beyond belief.

The idea of this post struck me when accidentally, I came across a picture of my son, Owais, in his initial months of existence. The accident of lasted for about more than 2 hours, still, I couldn’t get enough. The inscrutable pleasure is indescribable. With every picture effortlessly the memories of the moment flooded as it had been lived along with ‘behind the scenes’ moments.

I am not much of an enthusiast when it comes to storing every moment you live in the reel. ‘Live in the moment’, was a more agreeable statement for me until yesterday. But, yesterday, the pictures made me realize the influence of photography in one’s life and to re-visit the moments, the occurrence of which has been long forgotten.

From now on, I plan big on capturing my moments and clutching the memories while living in the moment from behind the camera. An idea of collecting my sons pictures at every stage of his life, and showcasing at his wedding has occurred to me, hoping it will be easier done, than said.

How do you think is the idea of becoming a regular at photographing your moments? What kind of photographer are you currently? which photography intrigues you the most? How did you find the post?
Let us know in the comments below.

Pink interim!!

As days pass by, the covid horror is seeping through the minds of the people. Awareness, precautions, social distancing and every necessary measure has become the most observed ritual of recent times. 

People continue to stay home and stay safe except a few who are not able to figure out regulating practices for their stress and energy while exposing others to the risk as well.

As we continue to stay home, we have become so aware of our surroundings, the nook and corners get due attention while cleaning. The kitchen rack shines brighter than ever and the wardrobes are rearranged.

Finally, a little more scrubbing and dusting will wipe the paints off the surface. 

“Sleep well, sweet dreams” has been nullified as sleep refuses to generate new dreams for our 15 – 16 hours of sleep, hence, embracing ‘repeat’ mode.

Just a few weeks back, we craved for free time and dreamt of quick retirement. Now, we have all the time in the world while we are still in our hustling age. 

Free time and health are two blessings which never came to an individual in sync. And, here we are, having free time while we are healthy. 

So, seizing the opportunity and squeezing the best out of it, we got to reflect and reflect and reflect a bit more on ourselves. In all odds, we can still grow on a personally, professionally and spiritually.

Excercise daily.

Listed here are few things by which you can make the best out of these days you have in hand with your health by your side. 

  • Wake up early and take your daily dose of Vitamin D in your windows, balconies and verandas.  
  • Make sure you dress up well, even if you are alone. Make your hair, apply moisturizer. It’s a ‘look good, feel good’ tip. 
  • Get at cooking and eat healthily.
  • Bond with your family by having all meals together. You’ll discover the beauty and the true essence of your family as you learn to co-exist.
  • Learning a new skill should be on your agenda. Stitching, art, painting, cooking, sketching and many more. Every little detailing from the beginners perspective is on the net. Get started right away.
  • Exercise is a must. Exercising not only helps us with weight management or muscle toning but, also with feeling fresh, staying active and energized with releasing all the negatives and making way for positive vibes. 
  • Take out time for spiritual knowledge and growth. Pray. We can also level by profoundly studying any religion of our choice which intrigues us the most. Our busy schedule hardly spared us time to look for answers to the question about other religions, hence, clinging on to the misconceptions. Clearing the misconception will be your contribution to an accommodating society.
  • Spend quality time with our little ones. You have children, do not let this time pass by without strengthening your rapport with your kids. As for them, this is just a big holiday, unaware of the intensity of the situation. Regulating our stress sensitively is highly required as this might leave a deep scar on the little minds.
  • Restrict yourself to one movie or two episodes of your favorite series a day. We do not want this lock down to bring out couch potatoes and new health problems through binge-watching. 
  • A video call or a voice call to a friend, relative is as great as the other ways. It helps you to keep in touch and to keep a check on the other if in case they are doing alright. 
  • Develop a reading habit. Start by reading short stories then moving on to novels. it is a great way of increasing knowledge while improving our communication skills.
  • Go to bed early, and avoid using smartphones 20 minutes before your bedtime, as it helps your eye muscles to relax leading to a night of deep sleep.
  • With all these in action, do remember to reflect. Reflect on yourselves. In the earlier rush, we hardly got time, to look back on our actions, did we hurt anyone, is there a scope of improvement in our behavior, can we become more friendly and be more polite to the office boy. Have an attitude check. No one is perfect and there is always room for improvement, and wise is the one who is always ready for change and improvement.

With all the tips, I hope it will help you to plan your day while optimistically utilizing your free time along with your health. 

How much do you agree with this article and do you have any better way to make the best use of the day? Do let us know in the comments.